sublimating my rage with mini candy bars
So, about an hour and a half ago, I was in a car accident. (It was minor, and I am fine, and I’m sure the bao is fine.)
I was supposed to have lunch with two of the other registrars at other local museums today. One, let’s call her Annie, was going to pick me up and drive me out to the other’s museum so we could eat at the restaurant there. Annie is pregnant too; she is due in April. She’s had a hard time of it, with a couple of miscarriages and some medical intervention along the way, but she and her husband are ecstatic about their baby girl.
So Annie comes to pick me up, and we are about to turn right out of the park where my museum is. It’s this weird intersection where you can turn right on red, but the sign is tiny and often people don’t see it, which is just TOO FRUSTRATING TO BEAR for some drivers, apparently. We were maybe third in line to turn, and there was some honking going on behind us. The cars in front of us finally do turn, and Annie is about to do so as well, when suddenly we are rammed with full force from behind. I screamed and my head surged forward and back, slamming into the headrest. Annie, who is quiet by nature, didn’t say anything, but there were tears in her eyes and she was holding her very pregnant belly and her face was bright red. I asked if she was okay, and she said yes, and she pulled up and over a little bit. The car behind us pulled up too. I marched up to him and informed him that the car he’d hit contained not one, but TWO pregnant women. He said he’d been hit by a cab from behind, making his car had slam into ours, but the person who’d hit him had driven off. Who knows if that’s true or not—I don’t know. I don’t know who would do such a thing, and the person who allegedly hit him must have been going really fast in order for the impact to go all the way through this guy’s car and into ours. But whatever, by that time this other car was long gone. I was mostly pissed, but Annie was really, really shaken. She felt the impact mostly in her back, and called her doctor, who told her to go to the emergency room.
Needless to say, we are rescheduling lunch.
When I called my doctor’s office, they said that since the seatbelt hadn’t gone into my abdomen, the bao should probably be okay. I am to keep an eye on it and if I have any cramping or discharge, go to the ER. The nurse also said I should pay attention to whether I can feel her move, and that I’ll probably be sore. Already I can feel both a headache and a neck-ache looming, but luckily I can also feel the bao wriggling around in there. So whatever, I am totally fine. I just hope Annie is okay and that her baby is okay. She is going to call or text me later. I just hate people sometimes. I am furious, just FURIOUS, on her behalf. Can you imagine how completely freaked out you’d be if you’d had miscarriages, and then in the ninth month of your pregnancy, to have a scare like that? It makes me want to punch the guy who did it in the face.
Since I can’t do that, naturally, I am doing what I can, which is furiously blogging and stuffing mini twix and milky ways into my face, and hoping that Annie calls me soon.
We got hit from behind a couple of weeks ago by someone who got out and apologized b/c she had been looking at her GPS. Anyway, that is frustrating. So glad to hear that the bao is moving around in there, and looking forward to hearing that Annie and daughter are just fine, too.
That is so scary! I am so glad that you and the bao are okay. I'll be sending good thoughts to your friend and her baby girl too. Keep us updated.
Wow. That sucks so badly. Glad you all are okay, but -wow- I can imagine how shaken up you guys must be.
holy shit! how scary. people drive so recklessly!
will be thinking of annie and hoping she and her babe are doing okay. (im going to go grab a mini candy-bar from my coworker's bowl and eat in solidarity with you!)
ah CRAZY! i can't believe people who drive away from accidents (if that really happened – are there cameras around?)…eek! glad you're okay!
Oh, my god! So glad you and bao are okay. Take care of yourself. Hope Annie is okay too. I am with you – what IS it with these jerk drivers? Here in Texas they abound. xo!
Scary. I'm glad to hear the bao is okay. Hopefully Annie and babe are okay as well. I hear your rage and will also eat some sugar in solidarity. What a crazy day..
How terrifying! Glad everyone is ok. Update us on Annie when you hear. Enjoy those mini Twix on a rainy Friday…
How scary! I'm so glad you're OK and the Bao, too. Annie will be in my thoughts.
God, people are such a$$holes, sometimes. It's nothing new, but it does get your blood boiling.
I'm so glad that you're all ok
I'm so glad you are ok and I hope the very best for your friend. Poor thing. I'd be really angry too.
What a fucking asshole! Did the car behind you have damage to the rear end or was he just blatantly lying?
Oh Dear! I am so glad that your are o.k, and I really hope that Annie and her baby are doing fine.
So scary! Glad to hear you are okay, sending lots of good thoughts to Annie too!
Totally scary! I'm glad you are okay and hoping for a happy update about your friend as well.
So glad to hear the Bao is moving around and doing well and that you're okay too.
I don't want to stress you out, but you may want to consider asking for an ultrasound to check that your placenta is okay – we've been told that even minor car accidents can sometimes give enough of a jolt to cause some placental abruption either straight away or some time later. If you have any cramping or discharge, or stop feeling movement, then it will all be too late.
Hoping that your friend and her baby are okay too.
So glad you, Annie, and the babies are ok. You're right to be furious. People really take for granted how dangerous their actions can be sometimes. You eat those mini candies!!
Ok, scary. How are you feeling now? I hope the tiny candybars helped.
Just catching up on blogs now and hoping that your friend and her baby are ok. And very glad that you're ok. People are assholes, i totally agree.
Yikes! I'm so sorry. I have been hit from behind (at highway speed, on 95) and had the driver who hit me drive away. My puppy was in her crate in the backseat and her crate was knocked sideways and jammed between the seats. Such an intense combination of confusion, fear and anger! I can't imagine adding the anxieties of a pregnancy on top of that. I hope you and Annie are okay.